I have to admit that the perfume has grown on me. I've only had perfume bought for me once before. It's so feminine and frivolous. Still, not right though
He emailed me
"Trinity, please dont think otherwise of me for giving you a gift. I have no second thoughts when i decide to buy it off with you on my mind. Right from the very first day you wrote to me, that's when i realized that you are some one whom i can talk to, at all times and be very good friends. You have always come back on my screen and spoken to me even just with a few words. That's very majestic and noble of you. You are someone very special and you will always be for me. You are a wonderful person Trinity. Cannot help caring for you. Enjoy all those attention and admiration that comes your way right".
Does he seem so bad?
Doesn't he just seem lonely and needy?
I feel bad for taking the gifts and bad about thinking he's creepy.
Oh drat.
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For Christ's sake Trin, how can you be so daft?
Your online persona is wonderful and if he had read your blog then maybe all that "someone very special etc" crap might be sincere.
But from what you have said all he knows about you is from an apology for thinking he is a crook and a business-like thank you for good service. Plus of course he knows you are a woman.
Use these gifts and the demand for "payment" will come sooner or later.
Can't be bothered making the same offer of help again as you always ignore it. You are an idiot to do nothing.
He may be a perfectly decent Human Being, but his actions (He doesn't know anything about you) ring alarm bells. No need to call in the SWAT teams and ruin his life for it, but if you 'accept' the gifts without protest, they may keep coming, and that may give him 'ideas'. Maybe these are the last he'll send....
Yes, he does seem Lonely and needy, but then again you know nothing about him, maybe he tries that tack with any of his customers with a female name, who knows?
No need to apply for a restraining order - yet - but if you receive anything else tell him in as businesslike a fashion as possible, enough already. I wouldn't use them yet just in case - imagine how that would look if (Pessimistic Extreeeeeeme worst case scenario) anything went to court one day.
Lonely and needy he may be, aren't we all, but he's on the internet - there are a gazillion forums, chatrooms and what have you, he could surely be finding someone to talk to the 'normal' way..?
If he contacts you again maybe you should start ignoring him, but you certainly should be wary of any expensive gifts - a couple of DVDs and two bottles of perfume aren't the average freebie you give to strangers....
Hiya,
Well..... my tuppence worth.... There is an awful lot of truth in the previous two comments. It is certaily odd and also very disconcerting....but
I can't help think how we started talking. Now that was odd too but it's worked out hasn't it? Then again, you know me so you know what I'm like... but you didn't. I could have been a complete nutter (what do you mean "hah!"? ;-) ).
I'm not much help on the advice front here am I? If you stay in contact with him, tread very carefully honey.
Be safe, be well and be happy.
XXX
Actually.... scrap all that.
You shouldn't be concerned if he's lonely and needy. Yes, i know that's mean but it's practical. Do you think, right now, that lonely and needy is going to do anything other than bring you back to the emotional spiral you've been climbing up and away from?
*hugs*
Think about YOU first trin. Put yourself first.
You've worked hard and it's been a hard climb. email this guy and say, If he'd like to be a friend, he has to stop the gifts. Tell him you'd rather get emails and learn who he is. At least then, you can slow the attention and figure the guy out a bit better.
Just dont forget...
You first Trin dearest,
YOU FIRST!
*hugs*
Certainly agree with that last point Exaxis. I don't agree with any suggestions of actually getting to know this bloke.
Nothing wrong with meeting people off the net, but I think there is a big difference from meeting blokes with something in common who appear to be decent guys like yourself and that slimeball.
I don't suggest he is dangerous but the circumstances of it and the language suggest he almost certainly does this to many of his female customers. That makes the declarations insincere.
More to the point it is entirely unethical and unnaceptable to take advantage of business relationships to approach women in this way. I do wonder what effect he has on some of those other women too, there are many much more vulnerable than our Trin.
Psst! Xog, I didn't mean know the guy with a view to meeting, just meant if it's reduced to emails rather than gifts, they can go unread if they're unwelcome.... but dont tell trin that ;-) she might think we're ganging up on her.
Then again... my advice isn't always the best. The only reason I'm not certifiably insane is 'cos i used my certificate to paper the crack in the sky that let the Florts through.... no, I've no idea why I just said that either. :-D
The point?
caution trin, always caution.
*hugs*
"If he'd like to be a friend, he has to stop the gifts. Tell him you'd rather get emails and learn who he is."
- Sounds like a very kind and sensitive way of stopping the gifts. Yay to exaxis - however the hell you pronounce it.
Be careful Trin.
Donna x
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